Havdala and Melaveh Malka
THE LAWS
OF SHABBAT
By Rav Doniel Schreiber
Shiur #15: Havdala and Melaveh Malka Part 2
In the previous shiur we discussed the Torah obligation of havdala, its
subsequent standardization by the rabbis, and the obligation of women to perform
havdala. We now turn to the details
and prohibitions surrounding the mitzva of havdala.
5. Eating and
Drinking Prior to Havdala
It is prohibited to eat or drink after sheki'a (sunset) until one
fulfills the havdala obligation - for men this includes both "ata chonantanu"
and "al ha-kos," while for women it is limited to havdala "al ha-kos." However, one is permitted to drink
water. (See OC 299:1, MB 299:35,
Sha'ar Ha-tziyun ibid. 299:46, and MB 106:4.
Compare with Rema 299:10 and Magen Avraham ibid. See, however, Shulchan Arukh Ha-rav
296:19 that women must daven ma'ariv motzaei Shabbat and recite "ata
chonantanu." See also shiur #12 for
the latest time one may begin eating se'uda shlishit.)
6. Work (Melakha)
Prior to Havdala
In general, it is prohibited to perform all manner of work until one
recites some form of havdala. This
may be fulfilled by saying "ata chonantanu" in the ma'ariv amida, by reciting
"havdala al ha-kos," or by merely stating: "Barukh ha-mavdil bein kodesh
le-chol." (See OC 299:10 and MB
294:3. For further details regarding
the prohibition of melakha prior to havdala, see the previous shiur.)
6. Havdala Al
Ha-kos
A. The Proper Time
The custom is to recite havdala al ha-kos after ma'ariv (Biur Halakha
299:4, s.v. Mevarekh); however, one may say it before ma'ariv (Shulchan Arukh
Ha-rav 294:1), after nightfall (tzeit ha-kokhavim) (MB 293:9 and Arukh
Ha-shulchan 293:3). One who makes
havdala this way is still required to recite "ata chonantanu" in his ma'ariv
amida (Berakhot 33a and MB 294:1).
One who forgets to say "ata chonantanu" and has already said "barukh ata Hashem"
does not go back. The reason for
this is one may rely on the havdala al ha-kos, which he will say, or has already
said (OC 294:1).
[For further research: At times one may recite havdala prior to
nightfall, although one may still not perform melakha until nightfall. When is this true? See OC 293:3 and 299:6 and MB ibid.]
B. The Procedure
We are required to escort out the Shabbat in the same respectful and
festive manner that we ushered it in (Rashi Shabbat 119b s.v. Be-motzaei Shabbat
and MB 300:2). Therefore, all who
participate in havdala should be wearing Shabbat clothes and the table should be
spread with a fine tablecloth. (See
Rema OC 262:1 and MB 262:4,8.)
The custom is to fill the cup to the brim in order that a bit of wine
will spill over when one lifts the cup; alternatively, one could fill the cup
until some wine flows over. This is
done to symbolize a blessing for bountifulness in the home at the start of the
week. (See Rema OC 296:1, Arukh
Ha-shulchan OC 296:11, and MB 296:5.)
When reciting havdala for oneself, one may stand or sit. However, when one is exempting
others, it is best for everyone to sit.
Nonetheless, some have the custom to recite havdala while standing even
when exempting others; those who will be exempt should stand close to the
mavdil. (See Rema OC 296:6, MB
296:27, and Bi'ur Halakha 213:1, s.v. Al.)
It appears that today the widespread custom is to stand whenever reciting
havdala (Igrot Moshe OC, vol. 5, no. 20, par. 17).
[For further research: The Bi'ur Ha-gra (OC 296:6) writes that one should
sit while reciting havdala; however, in the Siddur Ha-gra it is attested that
the Vilna Gaon stood while reciting havdala.
In what way may we reconcile this contradiction? See Tosafot Berakhot 43a, s.v. Ho'il,
Igrot Moshe OC, vol. 5, no. 20, par. 17, and The Radiance of Shabbat p. 126,
note 7.]
The correct procedure is to raise the havdala cup in one's right hand
while reciting havdala. Poskim are
divided, though, as to whether one must hold the spices in one's left hand
during the recitation of havdala (OC 296:6) or not (Arukh Ha-shulchan 296:17).
It is a widespread custom for the listeners to recite the verse
"la-yehudim hayta ora ..." aloud prior to the mavdil saying it. When the mavdil concludes reciting
"borei pri ha-gafen," he transfers the havdala cup to his left hand (OC 296:6);
according to others he places the cup the down (Arukh Ha-shulchan 296:17), and
holds the spices in his right hand.
After the mavdil recites the blessing "borei minei besamim," he smells the
spices and passes it around for each of the listeners to smell its fragrance. One does not fulfill the mitzva if
one does not smell the besamim (MB 297:13).
If necessary, one should smell the besamim (with a blessing if there was
an interruption) after havdala (MB ibid. and SSK vol. 2, 61:8).
Poskim are divided as to the procedure for the next stage. According to some, the mavdil holds
the cup in his left hand and prior to reciting the blessing on the fire, all
participants, including the mavdil, examine the fingernails of the their right
hand by the light of the havdala candle.
As this is being done, the mavdil recites the blessing "borei me'orei
ha-eish." (See Taz OC 298:2,
Mishbetzot Zahav OC 298:2, MB 296:31.)
Others rule, however, that PRIOR to inspecting one's fingernails the
mavdil recites the blessing "borei me'orei ha-eish" while holding the cup in his
right hand; after reciting the berakha, the mavdil transfers the cup to his left
hand and all examine the fingernails of their right hand (Siddur Ha-Gra, Siddua
Ha-Yavetz, Knesset Ha-gedola, cited in Mishbetzot Zahav OC 298:2, and Rav Moshe
Feinstein zt"l in Igrot Moshe OC, vol. 5, no. 20).
The reason we examine our fingernails by the light of the ner is as
follows. One should be close enough
to the havdala flame to be able to differentiate between two kinds of coins. Since distinguishing fingernails from
one's skin is considered akin to differentiating between coins, we have the
custom to look at our fingernails (OC 298:3 and MB 298:9). The correct way to perform this
custom is to close one's right hand and look at the nails, the adjacent skin and
the palm of the hand, then open the hand and examine the nails again (Rema OC
298:3 and MB 298:11). Some examine
their left hand as well.
Nonetheless, this procedure is classified as a custom and even if one merely
enjoyed benefit from the ner without examining one's nails one has fulfilled the
obligation (MB 298:9 and see OC 298:4).
In a case where one hears the blessing on the ner without benefiting from
the ner, there is some question as to whether one has fulfilled the mitzva
bedi'avad. Some poskim are
stringent, requiring one to benefit from the ner after the completion of havdala
(and to recite a blessing over it in case one has made an interruption after
havdala) (MB 297:13 and 298:13).
Other poskim suggest that perhaps one has bedi'avad fulfilled the mitzva since
the mavdil has benefited from the ner (Kaf Ha-chaim 298:22 and SSK, vol. 2,
61:23, note 62).
The mavdil continues the havdala while holding the cup in his right hand. At the conclusion of havdala, the
mavdil sits and drinks the wine.
Some have the custom to dip their fingers in the remaining or spilt, wine and
then moisten their eyes and inside pockets with it. Some extinguish the fire in the spilt
wine. See Rema OC 296:1.
Those listening to havdala should not speak until the mavdil has drunk a
melo lugmav (a cheekful - see later) from the havdala cup. If one does speak, it is possible
that he has not fulfilled his obligation.
Thus, one should not say "shavu'a tov" (have a good week) until after the
proper amount has been drunk. (See
Igrot Moshe OC vol. 4, no. 70.)
Moreover, one should not recite the blessings over besamim or ner while havdala
is being recited (MB 297:14).
One who hears the paragraph of "ha-mavdil bein kodesh le-chol," but not
the blessing over wine, has nonetheless fulfilled the mitzva of havdala (MB
296:33).
Poskim debate whether one can recite havdala for another person via the
telephone. Rav Moshe Feinstein zt"l
rules one can rely on this form of havdala only in pressing circumstances;
obviously, one should have already said "barukh ha-mavdil bein kodesh le-chol,
or "ata chonantanu" (Igrot Moshe OC vol. 2, no. 108 and OC vol. 4, no. 91:4). See, however, Tzitz Eliezer, vol. 4,
no. 26:2 and Yabia Omer, vol. 1, OC no. 19:18 which rule stringently on the
matter.
If one forgot to recite havdala al ha-kos motzaei Shabbat one can still
recite havdala up until sheki'a on Tuesday but without using spices and fire (OC
299:6).
One who has already fulfilled havdala may recite havdala again to exempt
others, provided they do not know how to perform the havdala. If they do know how, it is best that
they recite havdala. However,
bedi'avad, if there is reason to, one who has already fulfilled havdala may
recite it again for others. See MB
296:32, 297:13, OC 273:4, MB 273:20, and Bi'ur Halakha ibid. s.v. Ve-hu. In this case, the mavdil recites the
havdala including the blessing over wine and besamim, but not over ner; rather,
one of the other participants should recite the blessing over ner. See SSK vol. 2, 60:14, 61:6,22.
C. The Wine
If one has wine and chamar medina (such as beer and whiskey - see end of
shiur #8) available, it is best to use wine for havdala (Shulchan Arukh Ha-rav
296:8, MB 296:8, and MB 182:7). Even
if one does not have wine at home, but can get it elsewhere in town, though it
may be expensive, this wine is considered "available" and one should procure it
for havdala (Bi'ur Halakha 296:2, s.v. Im hu).
When using wine, one must use a cup containing a revi'it (about 3.3 fluid
ounces - see end of shiur #9) and drink a melo lugmav (a cheekful) (OC 296:3 and
MB 296:23). However, since drinking
only a cheekful creates a situation where
there is a doubt whether one must recite a berakha acharona (a concluding
berakha), it is best to drink a full revi'it to satisfy all opinions requiring a
berakha acharona (MB 296:6).
In the event that no wine is available or one prefers chamar medina over
wine, one can use chamar medina for havdala (OC 296:2 and Bi'ur Halakha ibid.
s.v. Im hu). Even in this case, it
is preferable to use a cup containing a revi'it and drink a melo lugmav. Nonetheless, some poskim rule that
when using liquor for havdala one is merely required to fill a shot glass and
drink a small amount. See end of
shiur #8. One cannot, however,
recite havdala on lechem (OC 296:2).
Preferably, the mavdil should be the one to drink the required amount
from the havdala cup. However,
bedi'avad, if one of the other participants drank the required amount instead
(including a minor who has reached the age of chinukh, understanding), or if the
other participants divided the required amount among themselves, even though the
mavdil did not drink at all, the mitzva has been fulfilled. One may recite havdala, though, with
the intention that he will merely taste the wine and then give it to someone
else to drink the required amount.
SSK, vol. 2, 60:37.
D. The Besamim (Spices)
There are a variety of reasons given for the mitzva of smelling besamim
motzaei Shabbat. Among them is that
upon the departure of Shabbat one loses the added dimension to one's soul
supplied by Shabbat. For relief, we
are instructed to smell spices on Saturday night (see Tosafot Beitza 33b, s.v.
Ki havinan, Rashbam Pesachim 102b, s.v. Ve-shmuel, and Tosafot ibid. s.v. Rav). For further research: See Rambam,
Laws of Shabbat 29:29, Tur OC, siman 297, and Or Zarua, vol. 2, no. 292.
All natural spices, whether from grass, bushes, or trees are suitable for
besamim. It is questionable,
however, whether one may recite a blessing on synthetic, or even natural,
perfume. It is thus proper that one
not use such substances for this mitzva (OC 216:6, MB 216:32, and SSK, vol. 2,
61:12, note 32).
If one does not have besamim available, one may recite havdala without
them, omitting the blessing on the spices (OC 297:1). If they subsequently become
available, prior to dawn of Sunday morning, one should recite the blessing over
them. (See OC 298:1 and MB 298:3.)
One who does not have a sense of smell should not recite the blessing
over the spices (OC 297:5).
E. The Ner (Fire)
The blessing over fire on motzaei Shabbat commemorates Adam Ha-rishon's
discovery of fire on Saturday night following creation.
This discovery was facilitated by Hashem
instilling Adam with the knowledge to creating fire by striking two stones
together (Pesachim 54a and MB 298:1).
See Pirkei De-rabbi Eliezer, chap. 20 for another reason for this mitzva.
It is best to use a fire that resembles a torch (avuka). This is defined by two flames joined
together. This is accomplished by
using a multi-wicked candle or by holding two candles or matches together so
that their flames unite.
Nonetheless, a singe flame is acceptable, bedi'avad. See OC 298:2 MB 298:8.
If one does not have a flame, one can use an incandescent bulb. See end of shiur #5.
If one does not have a suitable ner available, one may recite havdala
without it, omitting the blessing on
the ner. If it subsequently becomes
available, prior to dawn of Sunday morning, one should recite the blessing over
it. See OC 298:1 and MB 298:3.
A blind person should not recite the blessing over the ner (OC 298:13)
II. Melaveh Malka
It is a mitzva upon men and women to "escort the Shabbat queen" (melaveh
malka) after the conclusion of Shabbat and havdala. This is accomplished by eating,
minimally, a kezayit (olive size) of bread along with meat or some other cooked
dish soon after havdala, but not past midnight.
It is commendable to cook a special dish for the melaveh malka. In a case of need, one may eat cake
or other forms of mezonot, or even fruit and fulfill the mitzva. (See Shabbat 119b, Rashi ibid. s.v.
Be-motzaei Shabbat, OC 300:1, MB ibid., Machatzit Ha-shekel no. 300, Ma'aseh Rav
no. 16, Tosefot Ma'aseh Rav no. 39, and Eshel Avraham no. 300.)
It is proper to avoid becoming involved in chores or projects prior to
eating the melaveh malka (MB ibid.).
Some have the custom to wear their Shabbat clothes for the melaveh malka as well
(Kaf Ha-chaim 300:6).
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